Baggage Vs. Forgiveness
I hate when people act like their history with someone is an absolute part of your life forever. This completely discounts one's power to forgive and forgiveness is one the great acts of humanity. To deny someone their forgiveness is to deny their capacity to forgive and by proxy their humanity.
We have a choice about what we carry with us and we leave behind. If you want to start fresh you can do so. If you want to move on from the past do so. Just please don't pretend that the past is an absolute.